Comments on: Why Smart People Have Poor Communication Skills – And What To Do About It

By: Joshua Uebergang

Joshua Uebergang — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 12:21:35 +0000

Hi Kelli. Sorry to hear about your father’s passing. I’m happy though, he was able to spend another 17 years with you.

You can try contacting Daniel at his website:
http://www.danielgoleman.info/blog/contact/

I know he’s written about your incident before. It might have been in his EI book.

Best of luck,
Josh

By: Kelli

Kelli — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 07:33:55 +0000

I am very happy to hear that after 18 yrs after my fathers attack people are still writing articles and expressing there thoughts about this topic. It was a terrible tragic that occured and to this day and still cannot seem to grasp how a person with such a high IQ and high level of “book knowledge” could lack so much general knowledge in knowing right from wrong. If anyone knows how to contact the author of Emotional Intelligence- Goleman I would appreciate it. I have been trying for years. Unfort my father passed away over a year ago, but the fact that people still recall this event and express thoughts about it means a lot to our family!!
Thanks Josh

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 07:37:22 +0000

I am a very intelligent person and also a social retard. I recently graduted from college with a degree in Civil Engineering. My social retardedness exists because even though I have good intentions, I don’t know how to begin a conversation. Even if I get into a conversation with somebody, I have no idea how to keep it going. As a recent graduate, I am realizing this ineptitute is keeping me from getting a job.
It has been said that intelligent people seldom relate to others except to their own kind. That isn’t true. Do to our lack of social skills, we have trouble talking with each other. This puts us in further isolation.
Because of my social awkwardness, I have been shunned by other people. This has further driven my abilities, which in turn has brought further isolation. Now you see the cycle. For the longest time, because of being isolated socially, I have been more inclined to doing things on my own rather than relying on others.

By: manish

manish — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 12:20:58 +0000

hi Joshua!

thnax a lot for putting such soul guiding articles online..let me tell you very interesting story which my grandmother used to tell me in childhood, before sleeping hours..

… when God was creating human being, firstly he created a physical body made of mud and dust and then he decided to put life into that, he covered the body with five energy levels,also called levels of conciousness, one by one, in the order of increasing superiority and dominanace… at once he was in a mess, whether to put level of emotional conciousness upper than level of intellectual conciousness or vice versa… he reflected a lot.. and finally consulted with his wife (goddess).. and finally put emotions above than intellect and so created something called “great human beings”, and given them a beautiful world called earth to live, to form communities,to share, to dream and hence to develop.

…the story ends here, but not the morale.

Infact all this stuff you can find in “Vedas”..the oldest pool of knowledge.

Even today we see emotions dominating intellect in all “major” walks of life… people are ruled by emotions not by intellect.. in any nation or constitution the supreme power or control is given to someone coming through vast experiences of “public life”, not to intellectuals… that is why democracy is preferred… that is why a manager is paid more than an engineer.

the views and the debate,never come to an end…so lets other quote on this.

thanks.

By: Jaspreet Singh

Jaspreet Singh — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 08:27:36 +0000

I Agree wid ur every single word….Because i can c myself in every single word you wrote..even i can associate wid everything….but from 2 years i do go out always seek help and now i do m a good communicator….still i do get sm problems bt dat r 2 optional..
Now my life is 2 fun..
yes people like us hv fear approaching even grl..because we think what she vl think…or what vl happen..
We r gud @ studies…bt now after ur education….we r gud @ Social life 2..so life is all fun and work is fun 2..
Gr8..article..i thnk u should get noble prize fr dat..
Dont take it seriously i ws jst joking..haha..luk d fun…
now i tease people all d time..
Gud job keep it up..

By: Marcy

Marcy — Sat, 24 May 2008 18:13:39 +0000

…so I was researching communication skills for a school paper and I stumbled across this article written mostly about me! Good work – and thank you…now I know how annoying I am! Rupesh, comment #24, nailed it.

By: Chi

Chi — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 09:20:51 +0000

thanks for all.
I’m finishing my MA thesis so I need these information.
It’s useful materials.
Chi

By: Kavitha Sridhar

Kavitha Sridhar — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 05:11:00 +0000

It would be better for me to get it as a mail, instead of entering into the link. I am looking forward to improve on the communication skill, since i am being as HR, i would like to build this skill in a profession way.

Give me and help me in improving on my skills. Your tips please.

Thanks for the service. Keep doing.

By: arun

arun — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 11:58:22 +0000

wonderful article.. answers everything.. all the doubts

By: Drew

Drew — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 08:18:29 +0000

Amazing I couldn’t agree more and me coming right out of college has been like a storm of a new world which I will be following with less ego