What Would You Like to Learn in My New Program?
15 October 2008 | 19:50 | Interpersonal Relationships | 92 CommentsAs you have probably heard, over the last two years I have been developing a new program entitled: “Communication Secrets of Powerful People”. I have great news in saying the program is basically finished. It is jammed-packed with information on becoming a charismatic person who changes people’s minds.
Whether you are married, single, a manager, a parent, a student… whatever you are, the program will make you a powerful individual who communicates in a way that builds a strong connection with people.
At the moment I am putting the finishing touches on the program, which is where you come in.
I want to make sure I’ve covered everything about charisma and persuasion in this new program. I want you to be a powerful person who is in control of your relationships with people important in your life.
Please explain below the biggest challenge you have in these areas of your life. If it helps, feel free to tell a story of your situation to help explain the challenge. Provide as much detail as you can.
Simply use the form below to send your comment. Thanks in advance for your help!
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I'm creator of a highly praised program called "Communication Secrets of Making People Like You". You can read about it here and order it here.
Here are few of my topics to be covered:
1. overcoming natural shyness especially when meeting new people
2. overcoming “what-will-people-think-about-me” problem
Thanks Paulina and others who have emailed me their comments. I accidentally closed the comments for this post, so I’ve received a lot of comments from people via email, but you can now post again.
Hi Joshua,
1. I would learn to learn more on how to fit in with intellectuals, I have many of them and at times i end up feeling out of place during our conversations.
2.How to be more confident during Job interviews.
Cheers
What i earnestly need to know
1. Facts to consider in order to understand and tolerate human beings no matter the gravity of their offence so i can live peacefully with evry1.
2. How do i cope with heartbreak? and move on hopefully.
Thanks
hey
i would like to know how to overcome being shy when talking to people and how to attract them to you and grab their attention?
thankyou
Hello,
I’m interested in the following:
1. overcoming a trembling voice while speaking in public
2. making eye contact with the audience
3. breaking the ice techniques
Good luck
I WILL LIKE TO KNOW THE BEST WAYS TO TOLERATE PEOPLE AND HOW TO LEAVE AN IMPACT ANYWHERE I AM (IN A WAY THAT I WILL BE MISSED WHEN I AM NOT THERE)
There are two points I’d like to have in your program:
1. Charisma can be ‘built’, it is not (just)a gift!
2. How we can persuade with less talking
And remember, nothing is impossible… Thank you.
The best response under attack from somebody (Wife blaming, interviewer hard questions, unsatisfied customer, …. ) to end the discussion winning.
Thanks Joshua. Some people can create humour and take over the floor. Once they are established in a group, they are likely to influence the group to make inappropriate decisions. How to avoid such a situation?
Hello Joshua
i like to know how to have powerful vocality
Hi Joshua,
Please tell me how to overcome nervous, because I usually become very very nervous especially when I have to speak in the class. It will be more if I have to speak in front of the class. My voice becomes vibrate and it will make me more shy.
But I don’t have problem in other moments except in the class or in the formal gathering. Is it because of traumatic experience? I have tried many times to cope with this problem, but so far it is still there.
Hi,
I expect to be more confident in the presentation by sound communication.
The vocabulary or the language should not be a barrier to stop me to perform well in an interview, presentation and business communications
how to attract people’s attention and maintain it to the end of your presentatio
I’m interested in the following:
1. overcoming a trembling voice while speaking in public
2. making eye contact with the audience
3. breaking the ice techniques
Good luck
Dear Sir/Madam,
I want to develop my communication skill since good communication is mandator for every field work, friendship, familly… and in addition I suffer for my communication with my collegue at work they didn’t understand my internal just they judge my from outside. I belive that I am not like what they pictured me so I want to be loved by people and I want to have good relationship with people.
Hi Joshoua,
Excellent project and thank you for this opportunity.
What I find challenging is to maintain my confidence before or after a ‘more confident’ speaker (public speaking or in a group of friends)
Also, how does one move:
from admiration->envy->jealousy
to
from jealousy->envy->admiration!!!
While on the stand, how to stop thinking and start listening. What makes us want to defend our case, get our answer ready, before we even hear the complete question.
Hi Joshoua,
I guess the most challenging thing in good communication is inherent shyness.Lack of confidence is direct consequence of shyness,most of the peope are not able to share their valuable ideas as they feel shy or doesn’t feel confidant.
i think most of the challenges have already been covered above but i can tell you a tip on how to persuade someone:
- you just have to find the interest of person you are talking to, and then use it in a positive way to persuade. Meaning you should relate your idea to their interest.
How to handle a realtionship with a passive agressive person - the experts so there is no cure so get out asap! Do you agree? Most experts say it a result of education but I am convinced it is genetic as I first discovered it in my husband and then soon realised his mother and my son have the same disorder. Help please?! Thanks!
Hello Joshua,
My main challenge when address people in public, is how to handle negative or even abusing responses, without losing the string of my thoughts.
Hi Joshua,
I would like to ..1)avoid thinking too much of myself when present in group.That negaive thinking lingers smoewhere in my mind and in turn affects my confident level.
2)how to say no when it is required t say no.
i bless the name of the lord wen i stumble into this site it has indeed improve my communication skills and help me in relating with people but i found it defficult to initiat reconciliation speech must expecialy if im on tje offencive side.
meeting people is nice to me but i find it so hard to explain myself in words that involve deep emotional feelings within me.
I could not address a large crowd bcos of the fear i always have.
How to develop my interpersonal relationship skill to hostile, abusive and self-righteous boss?
How to talk nicely with your neighbor who is jealous and hostile to you?
Thanks and more power to your endeavours….
Hello Joshua!
thank you for this program and im glad to be apart of it. thank you also for the reports that you tirelessly and consistently send us. i have for long known myself for having poor communication skills. i always thought it is a personal problem that i would never get solution to. However, my attitude changed from the tym i became apart of this program. im however finding it hard to overcome fear for public speaking. if u could offer us with some tips of overcoming it. God bless, Josh.
Hello Joshua!
1. I frequently have very good ideas that I would like to share with people, but find myself unable to transmit them in such a way that they pay attention to me.
2. How do you present ideas that are non-conformist to a group of people who simply wants to get thing done with quickly.
3. How can you improve your voice and tone?
Hi,Joshua.How are you?
I would like to know about managing emotions and dealing with emotions,needs to communicate and how to develop a strong self identity.Thanks for this opportunity.
Hello Joshua,
Thanks a lot from sending the valuable artciles from time to time which helps me to internalise on lot of things and issues. i would like to know how to tolerate aggressive people without us getting succumbed to their whims and how to give unconditional acceptance.Reach a state of detached attachment with patience and serenity as the nature
Thanks Joshua for sharing your work. For me, 2 things:
First, I want to learn about gaining trust and confidence from people who, for one reason or another, already hold strong negative pre-conceived perceptions about you. Normally, there is some historical baggage involved, for example, jealousies or bad feelings from past interactions, which make these people to tend to strongly negate and reject you or anything you say or do. Basically, they do not even give you a chance to set one foot in the door.
Second is about learning to be aware of our own various emotional states versus the other party’s emotional states in social interactions and occasions. More important is how best to handle the situation, particularly when the emotional states between the two parties clash.
Thanks again for sharing all your hard work, and most of all, for being kind.
All the best.
Thanks very much Joshua,
It is very helpful. Knowing peoples character, nature the way they react, I am a bit hesitant to approach them. Seek help to overcome this.
Well Joshua i want to know of how to thicken the substance in me what some people call balancing self regard on self esteem, i believe it will then be able to advance my ability to appeal and persuade people
Hi, joshua
i have a problem with trembling voice while speaking and in particular to the public.
Another thing, how can i overcome fear during job interview and maybe gain confidence.
Hello Josh,
I am peter, I just want to know what to do acquire stability in thought and to control emotion rather giving room to pressure.
Olá Joshua, I guess I am a bit late to participate with some of my questions.. I will ask anyway, might get lucky. So here it goes:
- How to turn a boring subject into a pleasent/interesting subject to your audience? (I´m working on adults education: long life learning);
- In what moment can you forsee a storm coming in (argues)?;
- How to prevent everyone talking at the same time?
Thank you for your work and good luck to you.
Rita
Just wanna know how to keep people interested in you and wanna do what you ask them to do.
Simply i want to know how to be interesting enough for people to see you attractive and takes you serious.
thanks for the previous insight.
Hi Josh
1. How to continue communication to people after a rejection from the audience, or how to exit in such circumstances without appearing to run away
2. How to communicate a “NO” and still remain friends
Hi Joshua,
Thankyou so much for your informative and educative texts. Yes,people have said everything but I have this problem;
”When someone offends me,I am not able to tell them but instead I keep quiet and get stressed”. What is it and why?.
Hi Joshua,
Keep up 4 the good u have been doing 4 us all. may u live much longer that we enjoy ua work more.
I would like to know how to get rid of inferior complexity. how to feel at the top of things even when things are not on the right track. How to improve my comunication skills espcially how to get rid of mother tongue influence.
All the best. Am waiting for that program.
Excellent guys! It gives me real insight into what you are after.
I’ll put up a page soon to show you what the program gives you. Nearly everything mentioned here is now in the program; apart from a trembling voice and general vocality. I am really surprised at how it all integrates nicely together in the program’s 12 distinct principles because of the difficulties’ similarities.
Please keep listing your challenges.
Hi Joshua,
i would also want to know how not to get stuck in one emotional state for a long time and reach a state of equilibirium. looking fwd for the article.. Thanks
hi,
I WANT TO KNOW, “HOW TO MAKE MYSELF COMFORTABLE IN A MEETING, COMMUNICATE WITH BOSS OR OHTERS WITHOUT FEAR”.
Charisma and persuasion can ‘built’ me more confidence and improve my communication skills also expect to be more confident in the presentation by sound communication to overcome nervous.
I want to know how to get my boyfriend to spend more time with me. How do i communicate this to him without him feeling defensive
I consider myself as a decisive but, soft hearted, lenient and a tolerant person. As a middle level manager in an organisation, I see its negatives and positives: For instance,
Negative:
I was too forgiving, that a subordinate of mine repeated a small mistake twice;
Positive:
3 of my staff wanted to prepare for a church program (not related to work) and I gave them an extra hour off for a day. The following week, they went out for 30 minute lunches the whole week. I did not even ask.
Sometimes I felt that I need to change, other times I felt that I am the “best manager.” Yes, I have read books on how to be an effective manager, but it seems that I sometimes do not want to change the way I manage my staff. This may be seen from a parent/child relationship.
Joshua, there may be people in the same situation as I am. Maybe the new book can look at how to be caring, considerate, yet decisive - not letting emotions, attitudes and attachments influence decision making.
Harvey
1. Fear of crowds of people make me talk fast ending up not being authoritative.
2. I fear that i will say the wrong thing or be unappealing and end up being a laughing stalk. I therefore end-up not expressing myself.
3. I usually feel others are better than I am hence I lose confidence in expressing myself however good I am in the subject matter.
Hi …
I work as a demonstrator (educator) in the applied medical sciences faculty … I’m asking if I can get the students respect “charismatically”
Thanks in advance
Well this is really a nice program.
I like the saying “one you talk you let others see your mind” the problem here is with those who are in silent mode who to guage them and let us not consider the body language over here…Best of luck for all.
hello sir
i would know how to be attractive while i’m talking
Hi Josh,
Tq v mch 4 yr constant flow of useful articles. All the best to you, and u sure has demonstrated one way of communicating and influencing via yr consistent effort. 1)How do you communicate to influence goodness and for the other party to trust you and tell you the truth when you know very well that the other party is telling you lies after lies?