- mistakes women make in attracting men

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In brief:
Here are the top ten reasons why women keep themselves from living the love life of their dreams - and how to make sure you avoid every one of them...

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes You Probably Make With Men - And What To Do About It

MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His "Potential"

Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?

Of course you do.

And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well.

Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple.

Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.

Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well.

Sometimes for months or years...

But why in the world would a woman do that!?

Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”.

Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.

How do I know?

Because I've seen it at least a hundred times...

And because I've been this guy in the past myself.

Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.

I'm amazed the women put up with me.

But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.

The women I dated hoped I'd change.

The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the “potential” they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.

The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...

The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.

And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.

But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.

They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.

Talk about a losing battle.

It doesn't make a lot of “logical” sense...

But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.

MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology

Men are different from women.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.

Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.

But does the same apply for men.

As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.

As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.

And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and “intuition”.

Women don't seem to remember this about men.

So do men feel sexually attracted to women based just on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.

Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...

But looks are NOT the most powerful.

If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.

But it's not an accident.

You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY woman can learn how...

MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man

In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guy's attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.

Wrong.

Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.

You don't have to act like an “easy” woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.

Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.

So if you think that making him more attracted to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from the start, think again.

You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.

MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they “feel” too early on.

Listen...

Attractive, single, successful men are rare.

They get a LOT of attention from women.

Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.

And guess what?

Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...

It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really, REALLY like you” after one or two dates.

This signals to the man that you're just like one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.

This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send

Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.

Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.

The signals men send have 4 main levels:

1. Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2. Emotional: Whether or not he's “emotionally available”
3. Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4. Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future

The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.

That's great news to women...

Men can't help it!

You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.

MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character

People aren't easy to figure out.

Especially men.

The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.

I've studied peoples behavior, “inner psychology” and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.

From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.

But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.

Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.

They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.

Men are different.

Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other “indirect” displays of status.

VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.

Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.

If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.

Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.

You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.

MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy

A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.

And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.

But those are the exceptions, not the rule.

Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.

And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.

Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”

So let me be clear...

I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.

But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of he.

It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...

If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.

This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.

So what can you do as a woman?

You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more “natural” way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.

This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.

Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.

But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.

MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You

What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?

Right! They try to “convince” the man to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you...

YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN “FEELS” WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, ever.

You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.

Think about it.

If a man doesn't “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being “reasonable” with him?

But we all do it.

Men are the worst at this by the way.

They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.

Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.

She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.

When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.

Bad idea. Another one that will never work.

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation

A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...

And I don't mean just sex.

I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.

And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.

I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me.

Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.

It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.

I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.

I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.

Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.

It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.

I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says “he's not ready”.

You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.

But the really great news is... after several years, helping woman after woman, I now publish a free email newsletter that teaches any woman how to DRAMATICALLY increase her success with men and dating.

I'd like to invite you to sign up.

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Comments

Rafaa
09 Apr 2007, 15:05

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us, It helped me alot.

Have a nice day.

Cesca
27 Apr 2007, 00:15

Hi look forward to your newsletter sounds awesome :)

EILEEN
08 May 2007, 05:25

i need your help in helping a married couple to solve some issues that they may have the female feels as if her husband is pulling away from her can you give me some in put as to the mistakes she might be doing to cause her husband to pull away from her

Cherie
09 May 2007, 21:41

My boyfriend and I had a blowup five days ago and he told me that if things did not change, he was gone in a couple months once he saved enough money to live on his own. I have been very good and patient with him. But when he acted up, I did not take any crap off of him and I think that for a while, he respected me for that. And he has threatened to leave me several times before and I just blew it off because I knew that he was bluffing. Why? Because I am the best thing that has happened to him. I am smarter than any other woman he has ever been with and I never did him wrong but was always there for him when the chips were down. But when he threatened me this time, for some reason, I got really afraid that he was telling me the truth this time. Don't ask me why, I don't know. But I am very fearful and I hate it! Because I am not normally a fearful person. I love Danny very much and very much want to spend the rest of my life with him. He has been very cold to me here lately. The day before yesterday, I made the mistake of asking him several times over the course of two days. "Do you love me?" "Are you sure" This only resulted in my getting rebuffed every time. Well, I learned my lesson. I will not ask him those questions again. I will just not worry about it. My big question is, do you think that just letting it go, relaxing, and not worrying about it will save my relationship? If I just lay off and back off of him for a while, do you think after a while he'll come around?

Cherie
09 May 2007, 21:47

Oops, I didn't finish all that I needed to say in the first post. So, here's the rest: The reason I would like honest answers to the questions in the above post is so that I can more easily figure out whether or not to just go ahead and end the relationship. Thanx for any answers I get.

Joshua
09 May 2007, 22:14

Cheire, saying "Do you love me?" "Are you sure" will only distance the two of you. He would have liked and respected you more because you didn't tolerate his "childish" behavior. The same goes for women feeling more attracted to men who don't tolerate "childish" women.

It's not about relaxing and forgetting it. This may be more useful then being a nagger but you need to learn how attraction works. Then you'll be "relaxing" but at the same time doing something about your relationship to create the nice emotional sparks.

editha
21 May 2007, 07:26

thank you for giving me this lesson.can you help?i fail to identify good signals from my boyfriend.he dicided to love another girl as a girl friend at the sametime he still feels to love me very much and me too i feel him very much than ever before.is asking me to advice him how to breakup with her new girlfriend.how should i respond to this.and i dont want me to breakup with him.till now i feel to be so confused -i dont know what to do untill this time.may please give me the skills that will be helpful to both of us.

thank you in advance.

Peggy
21 May 2007, 11:01

Dear Joshua

Thank you for sharing such wonderful insights of attration and successful relationships. It will help me with my present relationship.

Thank you.

Cherie
24 May 2007, 03:00

Hi, it's Cherie again. Just thought I would return to give you an update on my situation. I ended the relationship after the last blog entry. I told him to pack his things and leave because I could no longer take his constant nitpicking and griping. It seemed as if he didn't notice the things I did right but was real quick about pointing out the things I did wrong. That got old. He's gone and with a woman much older and uglier than me, but we still talk from time to time. The last time we talked, he told me that he missed me and thought about me all of the time. He told me that he still loved me and did not love the other woman. I still love him and throwing him out was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. But I didn't feel like I had much of a choice. He had threatened to leave so I thought I'd help him out a bit. When I asked if there was a chance to work it out, he said yes but that I would have to give it some time. I'm okay with that but I too have met someone else and I won't wait for long. I don't think he expected me to throw him out. Because he was shocked when I asked him to go. Any insight on this would be helpful.

Chinese
24 May 2007, 10:32

I had a 3-4 months relationship with my ex-colleague, I still like him but he left HK & went to other countries for work. At the beginning, he treated me like a girl friend, called me every night and we went out for coffee, he was very busy but would try his best to spare time to me even 5 minutes. Then like other women, I did many silly things to convince him to love me & push him to be a more serious relationship, then he pulled away. He stopped to call me & send me SMS, then I sent him SMS & always said some encourage words to him (he was a busy guy), like : you are the best, I will always be there to support you... sent at least once a day before & always told him my real feelings... now, he left HK and I only can communicate with him by email or MSN, he will not reply me or only send once to me after my 2 - 3 emails. I feel upset but did not know how to do, I always told him that I wanted to keep our friendship, he seems accepts, do you guys think I scared him, I am sure he will not like me any more, I feel it. Do I really give it up??? I don't know ... how I can get him back .... he told me he has several interviews (he is looking for a new job in other country) and then, I sent him an e-card, told some encouragement words again .... I just wanted to cheer him up. but I know he will feel annoying again... he did not reply me, even to say thank you! I thought he wanted to pull away again... how I can do??? HELP Me PLEASE.

Joshua U
24 May 2007, 21:47

Chinese, that was extremely needy behavior. You cannot act so desperate and expect him to respond in a favorable way.

Chinese
25 May 2007, 00:49

so, what I should do now?

Joshua U
25 May 2007, 01:24

Move on and learn how attraction works so you not only don't make the same mistakes but you also take your relationships to the next level of passion.

editha
25 May 2007, 02:29

dear joshua,
my boyfriend is still waiting to hear from me.do you have even any piece of advice i can use it to get through with this difficulty situation i,m facing now.for sure it hurts me a lot.please help me.

Joshua U
25 May 2007, 04:13

Editha, someone just doesn't surprisingly end up with another girlfriend while loving you. Don't tell him "If you love me you'd..." Your boyfriend needs to take responsibility for his own actions. It isn't your decision of how he should break up with her. He's acting like a little-girl.

By putting the responsibility on you, if things don't go well he can then blame you.

Guys, please keep the comments related to the article or they'll be removed.

editha
12 Jun 2007, 13:12

hi,joshua.
just want to tell you i,m still wanting to hear new comments on the page if available.
thank you

Cherie
13 Jun 2007, 10:08

Oops, forgot to tell you. I need advise on that last entry because I would like to work on having a second chance with him. But first, I need to know if there is a possibility that he'll bite should I call him or try to talk to him. The last thing I want to do is to put myself out.

editha
10 Jul 2007, 01:38

hi joshua,
its me again requesting you to give your views about one thing,my boyfriend is asking to go out with me today.i know is still in love with another girl.should i accept this?because i don,t want to put myself in trouble.although i still love him very much and i can not express my personal feelings to him anymore.
hope to hear from you soon.
thanks

Joshua U (EarthlingCommunication.com)
10 Jul 2007, 06:35

Catch Him and Keep Him will answer this and many more questions I know you'll have because I've seen the cycle in women before.

Don't put yourself in situations you don't want to be in. It's a fact of attraction, if you're more selective and communicate that, then attraction increases. Just don't become argumentative.

Stephanie
24 Aug 2007, 08:18

I am nauseated by books such as this about what women do wrong with respect to men. Why can't we all just be real?? Christian Carter's book pretty much rambles never really cutting to the chase and giving useful tips, moreso what NOT to do. We women already know that!!

Joshua U (EarthlingCommunication.com)
25 Aug 2007, 00:51

I'm not sure what you mean by "real". If you mean "be yourself", that topic has been beaten to death. Being yourself is a privledge and not a right. You improve yourself, integrate skills, and then you can be yourself.

Identifying what not to do in the learning process in communication is almost just as important as what to do.

If women knew what not to do, that means that'd know exactly what to do.

Sanya
08 Sep 2007, 13:34

Hi, I have a problem. It's the guy I'm with. I love him. I really do. I don't need to know from him that he loves me - I already know. His smile in the morning proves it for the rest of the day. Just speaking to me nicely or something like that. I don't demand much. I think showing love is important, and I have my way of receiving it.
My problem is that my man is so needy it kills. See we're like 7 odd seas apart. So everytime he calls he'll ask 'You love me a lot don't you?' You do don't you???
You do right?
In one conversation he has to ask me every 5 minuts 'you love me right?' It's so annoying. I want him to be strong - like a man is supposed to be -yet I'm more strong that him. My basic need is an alpha male - able to order his woman around as every woman has a different type of an she needs. I need strength, sympathetic and just in general able to protect me.
I guess he thinks I'll go away or something - so I said to him no I won't go away - I'm yours for keeps, but he'll still ask.

AAAAAAH it's driving me crazy.

What do I do?

editha
01 Oct 2007, 08:36

Hi guys,is me once again,asking some views on challenges i am facing in my relationship.

my x(boyfriend)want me to be her 1st lady(wife)in future but challenges comes regarding about the issue itself-he still engaged in relationship with another girl.

He tried to be open to her that,he is no longer feel to grow in relationship with her because was just like kind of decision made while he was been frastrated,he explained to her he still love me and he doesn,t want to lose me in future as her wife.

That was difficult for her to understand,she promissed to commit siccide.(oooh it hearts)and i can understand the way she feels by exprience.

Guys,may please put some views to help me.WHAT TO TELL HIM AND HOW.Don,t forget i still feel and love him very much.
thanks and hope to hear from you soon.

thanks.

Cherie
01 Oct 2007, 22:49

I would wait and see if he leaves her. And I would not see him again until he did leave her. Go out, date other guys, but don't sit at home and wait for him to call. Get out and have fun. As far as this chic threatening to commit suicide, sounds like he just wants his cake and eat it too. He is probably just telling you that just to have an excuse to stay with her a little longer and have you on the side. Don't buy it. And if she did threaten suicide, this girl is a nutball. If my boyfriend told me that he was going to break up with me, I most definately would not give him the satisfaction of letting him think I could not go on without him. Sounds like this chic has no pride and you don't need to be mixed up in that mess. Tell him "save the drama for your mama". And run like hell!

editha
02 Oct 2007, 02:58

Glad to hear from you cherie,
i am agree with you.and i think this will help me a lot.thank you
i will be grateful to read some more views.

good day.

aisha
12 Oct 2007, 09:41

i have been in a relationship with this handsome man and it was rosy at first but now rough.i dont understand him at all.what could be the problem?

Sabina Okeke
13 Nov 2007, 12:29

I had a relationship with a guy for four solid years. I never had any feelings for him. So i decided to call it off today. Although, this guy is very stingy and cunny. For the past four years of our relationship he never spent anything on me. He used to demand sex as if i was a sex machine, but i never gave it to him because i don't have any feelings for him. Pls I need your advice.

Cherie
13 Nov 2007, 17:16

I have a question, if you have made mistakes with a man you are trying to attract and/or catch. Is there any way to turn it around or is it too late? Can you get a second chance to impress him. A friend of mine is trying to catch a guy but thinks she made a few mistakes that women often make and now he doesnt want a relationship with her. She wants to know how she can turn it around and I don't know what to tell her other than just to change his image of her by not making those mistakes again. Smile around him and act happy. What should she do?

Sandy
17 Nov 2007, 01:53

Hi I hope you can help me. I moved from England to America just before the summer. Spent summer at the beach and met this hot guy who was romantic and lovely, we stayed up late, he splashed me with water and was a good kisser. Then when I started my new school, it turned out he went there too. But now he thinks he's all cool and won't talk to me (especially around his friends). He's more interested in cars than with me. I joined the cheerleading squad and danced at the prom but now I just don't know what to do. I thought we really had a relationship. I'm hopelessly devoted to this guy. Please give me any advice that you can. Thanks

SHERRY
22 Jan 2008, 14:03

I got divorced last year and started dating my best friend who said he was looking for a REAL relationship that could turn into something perminant. Only after we started seeing each other regular, he said he wasn't ready for anything serious after all, and just thought he was. We still see each other ALL THE TIME and I even spend time there but he doesn't want to be intimate with me because as he puts it, he doesn't want to lead me on, and he doesn't want a RELATIONSHIP right now. I'm sorry if I'm putting too much piority on THAT part of the relationship, but it feels like he's just covering up the fact that he doesn't find me attractive with the bull about not wanting to lead me on and not wanting a relationship, because he WANTED a relationship BEFORE we were intimate! NOW he says he doesn't! He isn't being intimate with any one else I'm sure because I can drop by his place day or night and it's OK, but he has a ton of gal friends... "like he says I am." Is he just blowing smoke about just wanting to be friends because he's scared of a commitment, or could he really NOT be attracted to me in that way? Do guys LIE about that? I am a VERY attractive woman, as proven by the fact that I have at least 4 guys waiting for me to give up on him so they can start dating me. I don't WANT to date them because I'm not attracted to THEM in that way, and I'm afraid I'll get intimate with them just because I'm lonely, and I don't want to ruin any chances with my friend that I REALLY want to be with, by brining in some casual affair to take care of what HE IS NOT taking care of! I'm old enough that you wouldn't think this would be a problem, but I just don't believe in casual sex, and the one person I want to have it with, keeps giving me this line about not wanting any attachments! Like I said, I'm pretty enough that it's common for me to be the prettiest girl in a room the majority of the time.. at least in my age range if that makes sense, so it's NOT my looks, but 90% of the time I can't seduce him for the life of me, and I do have a few tricks up my sleeve... I know that isn't what makes a REAL relationship, but I do have needs, they aren't being met, and I'm getting down right peranoid about my desirability level! So what do you do when the guy you are crazy about, only wants to be friends but SAYS you are desirable and just doesn't want to touch you even though he's not getting ANYTHING from any one ELSE??? Is he just mixed up, should I THANK HIM for not taking advantage, or should I just give up on him because he HAS had casual relationships and evne married one woman "turned out terrible," just for SEX, but now decides to be all NOBLE and act like a MONK with me!

Zee
30 Jan 2008, 18:32

I made a huge mistake. I have a boyfriend but he's leaving for London in two months. While he was away I met one of my sister's boyfriend's friend. And we were flirting but I thought it was harmless... I saw him last week again when I was with my boyfriend and he completelly ignored me. I really like him now... I know it sounds bad but the guy I'm seeing us leaving and we have no future so what can I do to get him to like ne again. I need to rebuild my reputation in front of him because I guess he thinks that I am easy to flirt with when my boyfriend isnt around. How do I rebuild my image??? Please help

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